Quotes by Shannon L. Alder

When dealing with critics always remember this: Critics judge things based on what is outside of their content of understanding.

The only chains you should wear in life are the chains of commitment.

Never be a slave of loyalty to unloyal people.

A broken soul doesnt invest in boundaries because the world has crossed them, without mercy.

If he loves you he will meet your effort.

Don’t water your testimony with your righteous expectations of church members. Their imperfection will disappoint you every time and cause you to leave every church you try to join.

Loyalty will always be found in the things you regret because it mattered.

I have always found the hardest mind to change is one that is religious.

To think because you have been “saved” that you are now sane is insanity. God doesn’t fix the mind. He only gives you opportunities to have moments of clarity. It is your job to climb the mountain and see above the clouds for yourself, not to believe the congregations interpretation of the view.

Any woman of virtue wont be easy to come by. She will make you jump over hurdles to reach her.

Its a sad day when your iPhone becomes a horcrux, witches hunt your soul and you have to seek the resurrection stone just to find yourself. I was hardly Harry Potter. There was no lightening bolt on my forehead, but if you knew my life you would have met a storm.

You can never kill the spirit of an artist. They will always rewrite their resurrection and paint an eternal sunset with a blaze of orange that no one has seen before.

There is nothing spiritual about a marriage that uses guilt, blame, shame or religious manipulations to keep a relationship together.

If you have to be told how you should feel then those feelings are not strong enough to make you feel alive; they become rules that don’t fit your life script. Not every person will place the same importance as you do on one of the six human needs: certainty, variety, significance, connection/love, growth or contributions. When you know what is most important for yourself and learn to recognize what need is the most important to others, then you can begin to unlock the real reason behind conflict.

It is hundreds of tiny threads of memories, which sew people together through the years. Despite, their mental separation they stay woven into that tapestry out of habit, emotion, obsession or fear.

Marriage creates one world for your child. For that alone, two old friends can try to see a peaceful world through the eyes of their angels.

Marriage is what you make of it, and God has many versions of what that looks like based on what different souls need, in order to grow.

What good is intuition if your heart gets in the way of hearing it?

When criticism doesnt make sense, it is usually coming from a different place.

When we are wounded its as if something is stolen from us. We adapt and accept a particular truth that sets us up to behave a certain way in the future when we are faced with a situation that reminds us of the past. What we know about ourselves becomes influenced by our perception of these events. We associate and project the qualities of those who hurt us onto others unfairly. Every situation may appear similar, but people are not. Look at the people that love you and not the reminder of ghosts.