Quotes by Shannon L. Alder

“So many people think that they are not gifted because they don’t have an obvious talent that people can recognize because it doesn’t fall under the creative arts category—writing, dancing, music, acting, art or singing. Sadly, they let their real talents go undeveloped, while they chase after fame. I am grateful for the people with obscure unremarked talents because they make our lives easier---inventors, organizers, planners, peacemakers, communicators, activists, scientists, and so forth. However, there is one gift that trumps all other talents—being an excellent parent. If you can successfully raise a child in this day in age to have integrity then you have left a legacy that future generations will benefit from.”

“The most confused you will ever get is when you try to convince your heart and spirit of something your mind knows is a lie.”

“When you give yourself permission to communicate what matters to you in every situation you will have peace despite rejection or disapproval. Putting a voice to your soul helps you to let go of the negative energy of fear and regret.”

“People who fit don’t seek. The seekers are those that don’t fit.”

“If you have feelings for someone, let them know. It doesn’t matter if they can be in your life or not. Maybe, it is just enough for both of you to release the truth, so healing can occur. The opposite is true, as well. If you don’t have feelings for someone then never let another person suggest that you do. Protect your reputation and be responsible for the wrong information spread about you. Never allow anyone to live with a false belief or unfounded hope about you. An honorable person sets the record straight, so that person can move on with their life.”

“Lies dont end relationships the truth does.”

“I am not afraid to die; I am only afraid of saying goodbye to you forever.”

“It is easier to tell a person what life is not, rather than to tell them what it is. A child understands weeds that grow from lack of attention, in a garden. However, it is hard to explain the wild flowers that one gardener calls weeds, and another considers beautiful ground cover.”

“The mind knows the truth when your heart denies what it feels. When you dont feel safe to let people in it is because youre not ready to deal with the pain of honesty.”

“Accomplishments don’t erase shame, hatred, cruelty, silence, ignorance, discrimination, low self-esteem or immorality. It covers it up, with a creative version of pride and ego. Only restitution, forgiving yourself and others, compassion, repentance and living with dignity will ever erase the past.”

“To love someone with all of your heart requires reaching them where they are with the only words they can understand.”

“Two people with mental issues in a relationship does not work. Its like sitting in a boat and neither one has an oar to row the other to shore. You can meet your mirror image in life, but that doesnt mean you should marry him.”

“Truth and facts are woven together. However, sometimes facts can blind you from seeing what is actually going on in someone’s life.”

“You cant fight hatred with hatred and expect anyone to listen to you. You can only try to lessen it with humor, wit, truth and commonsense. If that doesnt work run like hell, while they throw rocks at you.”

“No boundary or barrier surrounds the heart of a person that loves their self and others.”

“Your strength will be found when you stop struggling with yourself, instead of thinking everyone is a struggle worth overcoming. Every obstacle in life is a lesson that teaches us, not others.”

“The only people that cant handle the truth are those that suffer so much anxiety that they will live in denial, in order to prevent their illusion from being destroyed and feeling more anxiety.”

“In a narcissists world you are not their one and only. You are an extension of that person and last place in their mind, while they secure back up narcissistic supply.”

“Your dignity can be mocked, abused, compromised, toyed with, lowered and even badmouthed, but it can never be taken from you. You have the power today to reset your boundaries, restore your image, start fresh with renewed values and rebuild what has happened to you in the past.”

“When someone you love makes compassion, kindness, forgiveness, respect and God an option, you can be sure they have made you an option, as well.”