Quotes by Shannon L. Alder

Lies dont end relationships the truth does.

Marriage is the beginning of love for your spouse, not the result of it.

Closure /klōZHər/ Noun1. The thing women tell you what they want, but secretly they really want you to tell them why you don’t want them again, so they can try one last time to convince you that you were wrong. 2. The warped mentality that having someone tell you honestly why they don’t want you is going to somehow make you feel peace, so you can move on.3. The neat packaging of finishing conversations because you have been stewing over it insecurely about the length of what a stalker does. 4. The one thing women don’t give themselves because if they didn’t care about the jerk they wouldn’t still be hanging onto another conversation that tells them what they already know: He just isn’t that interested in you.5. The anal retentive art of perfecting every ending with meaning, rather than just excepting you went through something rather sucky and he doesn’t care.6. The act of closing something with someone, when in reality you should slam the door.

Every broken heart has screamed at one time or another, I want to know why!

You cant compare men or women with mental disorders to the normal expectations of men and women in without mental orders. Your dealing with symptoms and until you understand that you will always try to find sane explanations among insane behaviors. You will always have unreachable standards and disappointments. If you want to survive in a marriage to someone that has a disorder you have to judge their actions from a place of realistic expectations in regards to that persons upbringing and diagnosis.

It really is quite simple. All women really want is to be needed, valued and loved above anyone else and they will make you a keeper. Its your actions she is paying attention to, not your words.

Maybe, the question isnt who will look good by your side, who will make these days less dull, who will bring you the greatest financial benefit, who will be the one to bring you pleasure, who do you have the most in common with?.... Maybe, the question one should ask is who do you want at your side when you are dying?

Empowering Women 101: If a normal man wants you he will let you know. You wont have to guess. He will move mountains to bring you into his life. If he is abnormal he will string you along, drop a trail of crumbs and clues for you to follow, in order to keep you guessing. This type of man desires you, but doesnt value you.

Empowering Women 101-- A strong women knows that cheating isnt a mistake its a choice. The choice was made long before you found out.

Sometimes, you can be more than enough for someone, but they choose not to be in your life. Always remember that Satan works hard to keep people miserable by feeding their fears, so they stay in their comfort zone. The truth is some people value what is predictable, more than chemistry.

The right man in your life will fly across the world to say hello, instead of saying goodbye.

The problem isn’t that I think so highly of myself. It is just that you think so little of yourself. Live life BIG, BOLD and OUT LOUD!

Chasing a person doesn’t give you value or build values in you. You earn your value by chasing morality and practicing dignity.

The secret to your purpose is to find what you feel is important, and not pursue what others would think is important. When you think highly of yourself, me thinking highly of you will never be enough!

Introspective souls are often tormented by their passionate visions. This is because visionaries see what shall be and wake up to what is. However, if you couldnt see a glimpse of the city lights while stranded in the forest, how would you ever know to walk in that direction? Sometimes, your vision cant be put into action, until you gather the learning experiences, along your journey first.

They say faith is taking the first step when you can’t see the whole staircase. Actually, wisdom is seeing the elevator behind it that would have taken you to the top floor.

Maybe, the lesson we can all learn from the inner sadness of a Narcissist is to see through our own fabrications, our own illusions so that we can be set free to be real once more.

Time doesnt heal all wounds, only distance can lessen the sting of them.

Often the inspiration to write music comes from the voices in your head. You’re not crazy. Just be thankful they are not making you rescue people in 20-degree weather at 2:30 in the morning in the forest.

There is no real bravery in getting paid to save someones life. However, there is a large amount of bravery in a nurse break dancing at the hospitals Christmas party.