Quotes by Shannon L. Alder

What you give meaning to is what causes your emotion. Before you react know why you are giving something so much energy or fear. When you begin to understand why you give things meaning you can begin to change how you react and why you do what you do.

Right person, wrong timing doesn’t mean God was wrong. It means you were there at the right time to fulfill something else. Look for it.

The only person that deserves a special place in your life is someone that never made you feel like you were an option in theirs.

I have known friendship love, parental love, romantic love, family love and unrequited love in my life time, but the only love that made a difference was self love. You dont need confirmation from the world or another person that you matter. You simply do matter. When you finally believe that truth and live it then you can do amazing things with your life!

The only real conflict you will ever have in your life won’t be with others, but with yourself.

Unrequited love is the only emotion that allows sane people to taste the “life sentence” of someone with bipolar disorder. The longer they hang onto a lost cause the more unstable they look to everyone else. They contradict their own belief systems and statements, by circling the drain with two competing emotions—love and hate.

When you love yourself you will never need closure from any man. That doesnt mean you didnt love him, it simply means you love yourself enough to realize God has a better plan for you that doesnt involve one more conversation that will remind you of that persons lack of respect for you.

You will never let go of the past by ignoring the most painful thing the person you loved has done to you. When you begin to minimize it, second guess yourself and others, ignore it or even pretend it didnt happen you cheat yourself out of healing. Naturally, your mind would rather believe the lies you are telling it, rather than accept the truth. The soul has a way of protecting itself from trauma, but if left in denial there is no growth or change. Healing requires going to that place you avoid and asking yourself why you are so afraid to accept the reality of what happened to you? Why have you minimized it like this person has wanted you to? What is it about your self esteem that allows you to continue being a doormat?

Empowered Women 101: If he cant tell other women that he is happily married and acts in a way that suggests he isnt fully committed then he isnt happy. He is keeping his foot in the door for a better opportunity should it not work out with you. Real women dont need to investigate. They invest in their self confidence and worth by not allowing their man to disrespect them. They are not afraid to ask themselves the tough questions: Why am I letting this man humiliate me and value me less than others? Why have I allowed myself to become a doormat?

A person that doesnt know their worth will never know yours. Therefore, the longer you hang onto hope that they will finally see your worth is the moment you start to depreciate in value.

Never chase a person that doesnt know your worth because the moment you catch him you will always feel you were never good enough.

If you live life on your own terms it shouldn’t feel like a jail cell.

When you only know your faults and failures, you allow yourself and others to downgrade your dreams and belittle your wants.

The only love you have to prove in life is your love of God and helping others. Anyone that cant see that has proven themselves to be unworthy of your time because why would you spend your life with someone that cant tell the difference between a diamond and dirt?

I am convinced that the jealous, the angry, the bitter and the egotistical are the first to race to the top of mountains. A confident person enjoys the journey, the people they meet along the way and sees life not as a competition.

It is better to stay single and wait for the one that makes sense then to marry someone that makes absolutely no sense. The moment you settle is when the one person that makes all the sense in the world shows up and Satan sits back and enjoys your spiritual meltdown.

God never uses one approach to the get his job done in the world. Each soul has its own way of being reached. He has put inside of each of us an unique song, that only another heart can hear clearly. To wish you were someone else robs another human being of the special blessings, talents and gifts God meant for you to share.

When a person thinks you are too good for them, they create a wall without even taking a chance. The best life that God has in store for a person is often thrown away because of what he or she thinks they deserve. True love is not the life you had, but the life you never realized you could have.

If youre stressing over happiness, youre doing it wrong!

Conformity begins the moment you ignore how you feel for acceptance.