Quotes by Shannon L. Alder

Two people that have the same wants are two people that should be friends.

When you lose your ego, you win. It really is that simple.

You can be bit in the leg by a rattlesnake and seek help to heal your wound, or you can run after it and let the poison take your leg. The same is true with love.

It is so simple, yet so hard for some people to do. If you want someone out of your life then you and only “you” must tell him or her to leave. This can only be done by you. Otherwise, your silence shouts, “I am undecided.” When other people get involved it sends mixed signals. If only more people would be so bold, hearts would not linger so long.

Don’t waste your time trying to explain yourself to people that are committed to misunderstanding you. Instead, commit your time to explaining who they are to them. When you get a person to see the positive similarities you share, it begins to restore the loss of respect between you.

Empathy and a huge imagination explain a lot of mysteries in the universe.

Youre going to come across some truly gifted people in your lifetime that seem to know all the answers. However, they lost their personal relationship with God, along the way. Love them anyways, and do everything you can to help them restore that relationship. They are fighting a war that you dont know anything about.

There are so many battles worth fighting for. The ones not worth fighting are the insecure battles that rage in another person’s mind.

God helps everything come to pass. However, he reminds us that nothing comes to stay.

When we want to see someone in a certain way, we find a way, but when we dont we have to wake up and see who they truly are and not what our pain or anger chooses to believe.

Dont ever believe that Narcissists dont understand they have hurt you. They know exactly what they did and why they did it. The reason they cant stop their abuse is because the narcissistic supply is their addiction. Unlike, drug addicts that need their fix to feel normal, narcissists need to feel significant. This is their addiction. Even if it takes destructive ways to have this emotional balance they will pursue it. Your feelings dont count only the supply does. The greater the supply the greater the drama in your life as they pursue it. So, get over believing they dont understand. They do understand. You just found out and got in the way of their easy access to greater supply than you.

The only man worth having in your life is one that would never let you walk away.

The reason a lot of women cant move on from a relationship or people they love is because they need to know why. Why did this happen? Why did you do this? Why dont you care? Why did you hurt me? Why do you believe this about me? Why did you send me mixed signals? Why are these other people in your life acting like you care? Men have it all wrong. Insecurity is not why a lot of women dont let go. Women have a difficult time letting go because men dont communicate why at the level that women require. They dont back up their words with actions that are not confusing or could be misinterrupted as something else. Until, men learn that their actions and their friends and families reactions can create a questionable doubt about how they feel, they will forever have to deal with the drama they create for themselves.

You will know if you are on the right path when God directs your choices, not your spouse or significant other.

A fantasy is nothing more than a dream you were too scared to chase.

The words, I love you, are empty without clarification. Women prefer to be told what they can expect. It is measurable like a Weight Watcher’s diet, with extra points at the end of the week if you don’t cheat.

You dont walk away to prove your worth. You walk away because you allowed someone else to dictate your value and you found yourself believing it.

A man worth loving is a man that never makes you feel like an option.

Chasing a man is not winning. The only thing you win is the loss of your dignity. Confidence is knowing your value, instead of expecting a man’s love to provide you with value.

God doesn’t give us pain to make us strong. He gives us strength to look inside ourselves and realize we are not innocent victims. When you learn humility, you are no longer a victim because a humble man is not self-absorbed. He seeks to understand why people are hurting him and takes responsibility for his part in their grief. Humility doesn’t dwell with anger or pride, and neither does God.