Quotes by Shannon L. Alder

Half of the time, the Holy Ghost tries to warn us about certain people that come into our life. The other half of the time he tries to tell us that the sick feeling we get in a situation is not the other person’s fault, rather it is our own hang-ups. A life filled with bias, hatred, judgment, insecurity, fear, delusion and self-righteousness can cloud the soul of anyone you meet. Our job is never to assume,instead it is to listen, communicate, ask questions then ask more, until we know the true depth of someone’s spirit.

The true call of liberation of women is not in taking off their clothes, but taking off their prejudices.

Never presume to know a person based on the one dimensional window of the internet. A soul can’t be defined by critics, enemies or broken ties with family or friends. Neither can it be explained by posts or blogs that lack facial expressions, tone or insight into the person’s personality and intent. Until people “get that”, we will forever be a society that thinks Beautiful Mind was a spy movie and every stranger is really a friend on Facebook.

If you think people in your life are normal, then you undoubtedly have not spent any time getting to know the abnormal side of them.

We don’t yet have a body of scientific knowledge about evil to be called a facet of psychology. Therefore, religious reasoning for actions will always be at the discretion of the psychologist, thus making them the judge and jury over what is delusion and what is a spiritual experience that has to be sedated.

The Warrior Woman Code:A confident woman doesnt beg a man to stay, cry if they dont or need to tear down other women to be loved. She knows her value. When the person she is meant to be with finds her, that person will know it also. He wont be confused by it. He will fight for her because without her he feels incomplete. She will always be foremost in his mind above anyone else. She doesnt have to scheme to keep or entice him. She is okay walking away from him because she doesnt want to be seen as a choice or a woman that has some potential. She demands to be seen as the one. To settle for anything less than that is an admission of insecurity and lack of self love.

The purest form of faith happens when you reach the bottom of your reasoning and find there is nothing that you can do that will make sense out of what you have been through.

Sometimes losses in life are not losses at all. They are simply the evidence God provides, in order to build a story so profound, that it will cause social change.

People will tell you that you’re broken. Don’t believe them. They were not the person that could help you. They have not walked your path. God has got a plan to bring people into your life that have lived through a similar hell. In the end, it isn’t the number of people that are on your side. It is the people that understand what your side is that matters.

People are going to come into your life, and God is going to use them to help you. To them you’re insignificant and don’t matter. They are not going to understand you, or even see the point of why God had you hang in there with them for so long. Remember this: Sometimes meeting someone has nothing to do with what you can provide for him or her and everything to do with what God needs you to recognize in that person. If you didn’t understand the message, God will keep sending the same person or situation into your life.

Live vertically, not horizontally.

If you want your prayers answered, you get off your knees and do the one thing you’re praying someone else will do for you.

A sacrifice is not about expecting God to break the bond you have with another person. You make the sacrifice on your own because God is more important than the bond.

One of the most powerful lessons in life is to recognize that no one can give you power, and many people don’t want you to have it. You have to find the courage to seize it, own it and hold on!

The very least you can do in your life is to figure out what you hope for. And the most you can do is live inside that hope. Not admire it from a distance, but live right in it, under its roof.

Every journey taken always includes the path not taken, the detour through hell, the crossroads of indecision and the long way home.

Having dignity doesnt require you to fall out of love with someone. You can love someone your entire life and not been in their life. It simply means you wont allow their actions or inactions to guide your future. The moment you feel derailed from your life purpose, in limbo or have to sell your worth, you have crossed over from love to desperation.

Our dreams will always tell us what we are missing in our lives. The smaller we make them tells God how little faith we have in him to make them come true.

When you live with dignity no man will ever take it. Live without it and every boy will steal it.

Courage cant exist without action. Anything else is a lion without his roar.