“The little rift between the sexes is astonishingly widened by simply teaching one set of catchwords to the girls and another to the boys.”
Thus, when a young lady has angelic
features, eats nothing to speak of, plays all day long on the piano, and
sings ravishingly in church, it requires a rough infidelity, falsely
called cynicism, to believe that she may be a little devil after all.
Yet so it is: she may be a tale-bearer, a liar, and a thief; she may have
a taste for brandy, and no heart. My compliments to George Eliot for her
Rosamond Vincy; the ugly work of satire she has transmuted to the ends of
art, by the companion figure of Lydgate; and the satire was much wanted
for the education of young men. That doctrine of the excellence of
women, however chivalrous, is cowardly as well as false. It is better to
face the fact, and know, when you marry, that you take into your life a
creature of equal, if of unlike, frailties; whose weak human heart beats
no more tunefully than yours.
But it is the object of a liberal education not only to obscure the
knowledge of one sex by another, but to magnify the natural differences
between the two. Man is a creature who lives not upon bread alone, but
principally by catchwords; and the little rift between the sexes is
astonishingly widened by simply teaching one set of catchwords to the
girls and another to the boys. To the first, there is shown but a very
small field of experience, and taught a very trenchant principle for
judgment and action; to the other, the world of life is more largely
displayed, and their rule of conduct is proportionally widened. They are
taught to follow different virtues, to hate different vices, to place
their ideal, even for each other, in different achievements. What should
be the result of such a course? When a horse has run away, and the two
flustered people in the gig have each possessed themselves of a rein, we
know the end of that conveyance will be in the ditch. So, when I see a
raw youth and a green girl, fluted and fiddled in a dancing measure into
that most serious contract, and setting out upon life’s journey with
ideas so monstrously divergent, I am not surprised that some make
shipwreck, but that any come to port. What the boy does almost proudly,
as a manly peccadillo, the girl will shudder at as a debasing vice; what
is to her the mere common sense of tactics, he will spit out of his mouth
as shameful.
“To travel hopefully is a better thing than to arrive.”
Even in a corner of it, in a
private park, or in the neighbourhood of a single hamlet, the weather and
the seasons keep so deftly changing that although we walk there for a
lifetime there will be always something new to startle and delight us.
There is only one wish realisable on the earth; only one thing that can
be perfectly attained: Death. And from a variety of circumstances we
have no one to tell us whether it be worth attaining.
A strange picture we make on our way to our chimæras, ceaselessly
marching, grudging ourselves the time for rest; indefatigable,
adventurous pioneers. It is true that we shall never reach the goal; it
is even more than probable that there is no such place; and if we lived
for centuries and were endowed with the powers of a god, we should find
ourselves not much nearer what we wanted at the end. O toiling hands of
mortals! O unwearied feet, travelling ye know not whither! Soon, soon,
it seems to you, you must come forth on some conspicuous hilltop, and but
a little way further, against the setting sun, descry the spires of El
Dorado. Little do ye know your own blessedness; for to travel hopefully
is a better thing than to arrive, and the true success is to labour.
THE ENGLISH ADMIRALS
“Whether it be wise in men to do such actions or no, I am sure it is
so in States to honour them.”—SIR WILLIAM TEMPLE.
THERE is one story of the wars of Rome which I have always very much
envied for England. Germanicus was going down at the head of the legions
into a dangerous river—on the opposite bank the woods were full of
Germans—when there flew out seven great eagles which seemed to marshal
the Romans on their way; they did not pause or waver, but disappeared
into the forest where the enemy lay concealed. “Forward!” cried
Germanicus, with a fine rhetorical inspiration, “Forward! and follow the
Roman birds.” It would be a very heavy spirit that did not give a leap
at such a signal, and a very timorous one that continued to have any
doubt of success. To appropriate the eagles as fellow-countrymen was to
make imaginary allies of the forces of nature; the Roman Empire and its
military fortunes, and along with these the prospects of those individual
Roman legionaries now fording a river in Germany, looked altogether
greater and more hopeful.
“So long as we love, we serve; so long as we are loved by others, I should say that we are almost indispensable; and no man is useless while he has a friend.”
Neither is it enough to buy
the loaf with a sixpence; for then you are only changing the point of the
inquiry; and you must first have _bought the sixpence_. Service for
service: how have you bought your sixpences? A man of spirit desires
certainty in a thing of such a nature; he must see to it that there is
some reciprocity between him and mankind; that he pays his expenditure in
service; that he has not a lion's share in profit and a drone's in
labour; and is not a sleeping partner and mere costly incubus on the
great mercantile concern of mankind.
Services differ so widely with different gifts, and some are so
inappreciable to external tests, that this is not only a matter for the
private conscience, but one which even there must be leniently and
trustfully considered. For remember how many serve mankind who do no
more than meditate; and how many are precious to their friends for no
more than a sweet and joyous temper. To perform the function of a man of
letters it is not necessary to write; nay, it is perhaps better to be a
living book. So long as we love we serve; so long as we are loved by
others, I would almost say that we are indispensable; and no man is
useless while he has a friend. The true services of life are inestimable
in money, and are never paid. Kind words and caresses, high and wise
thoughts, humane designs, tender behaviour to the weak and suffering, and
all the charities of man's existence, are neither bought nor sold.
Yet the dearest and readiest, if not the most just, criterion of a man's
services, is the wage that mankind pays him or, briefly, what he earns.
There at least there can be no ambiguity. St. Paul is fully and freely
entitled to his earnings as a tentmaker, and Socrates fully and freely
entitled to his earnings as a sculptor, although the true business of
each was not only something different, but something which remained
unpaid. A man cannot forget that he is not superintended, and serves
mankind on parole. He would like, when challenged by his own conscience,
to reply: 'I have done so much work, and no less, with my own hands and
brain, and taken so much profit, and no more, for my own personal
delight.' And though St.
“Most of our pocket wisdom is conceived for the use of mediocre people, to discourage them from ambitious attempts, and generally console them in their mediocrity.”
But the morality of the thing, you will be glad to hear, is excellent;
for it is only by trying to understand others that we can get our own
hearts understood; and in matters of human feeling the clement judge is
the most successful pleader.
CRABBED AGE AND YOUTH
“You know my mother now and then argues very notably; always very
warmly at least. I happen often to differ from her; and we both
think so well of our own arguments, that we very seldom are so happy
as to convince one another. A pretty common case, I believe, in all
_vehement_ debatings. She says, I am _too witty_; Anglicè, _too
pert_; I, that she is _too wise_; that is to say, being likewise put
into English, _not so young as she has been_.”—Miss Howe to Miss
Harlowe, _Clarissa_, vol. ii. Letter xiii.
THERE is a strong feeling in favour of cowardly and prudential proverbs.
The sentiments of a man while he is full of ardour and hope are to be
received, it is supposed, with some qualification. But when the same
person has ignominiously failed and begins to eat up his words, he should
be listened to like an oracle. Most of our pocket wisdom is conceived
for the use of mediocre people, to discourage them from ambitious
attempts, and generally console them in their mediocrity. And since
mediocre people constitute the bulk of humanity, this is no doubt very
properly so. But it does not follow that the one sort of proposition is
any less true than the other, or that Icarus is not to be more praised,
and perhaps more envied, than Mr. Samuel Budgett the Successful Merchant.
The one is dead, to be sure, while the other is still in his
counting-house counting out his money; and doubtless this is a
consideration. But we have, on the other hand, some bold and magnanimous
sayings common to high races and natures, which set forth the advantage
of the losing side, and proclaim it better to be a dead lion than a
living dog. It is difficult to fancy how the mediocrities reconcile such
sayings with their proverbs. According to the latter, every lad who goes
to sea is an egregious ass; never to forget your umbrella through a long
life would seem a higher and wiser flight of achievement than to go
smiling to the stake; and so long as you are a bit of a coward and
inflexible in money matters, you fulfil the whole duty of man.
“There are no foreign lands. It is the traveler only who is foreign.”
Once some one remembered me, and brought me
out half a tumblerful of the playful, innocuous American cocktail. I
drank it, and lo! veins of living fire ran down my leg; and then a focus
of conflagration remained seated in my stomach, not unpleasantly, for
quarter of an hour. I love these sweet, fiery pangs, but I will not
court them. The bulk of the time I spent in repeating as much French
poetry as I could remember to the horses, who seemed to enjoy it hugely.
And now it went—
“O ma vieille Font-georges
Où volent les rouges-gorges:”
and again, to a more trampling measure—
“Et tout tremble, Irun, Coïmbre,
Sautander, Almodovar,
Sitôt qu’on entend le timbre
Des cymbales do Bivar.”
The redbreasts and the brooks of Europe, in that dry and songless land;
brave old names and wars, strong cities, cymbals, and bright armour, in
that nook of the mountain, sacred only to the Indian and the bear! This
is still the strangest thing in all man’s travelling, that he should
carry about with him incongruous memories. There is no foreign land; it
is the traveller only that is foreign, and now and again, by a flash of
recollection, lights up the contrasts of the earth.
But while I was thus wandering in my fancy, great feats had been
transacted in the bar. Corwin the bold had fallen, Kelmar was again
crowned with laurels, and the last of the ship’s kettles had changed
hands. If I had ever doubted the purity of Kelmar’s motives, if I had
ever suspected him of a single eye to business in his eternal dallyings,
now at least, when the last kettle was disposed of, my suspicions must
have been allayed. I dare not guess how much more time was wasted; nor
how often we drove off, merely to drive back again and renew interrupted
conversations about nothing, before the Toll House was fairly left
behind. Alas! and not a mile down the grade there stands a ranche in a
sunny vineyard, and here we must all dismount again and enter.
Only the old lady was at home, Mrs. Guele, a brown old Swiss dame, the
picture of honesty; and with her we drank a bottle of wine and had an
age-long conversation, which would have been highly delightful if Fanny
and I had not been faint with hunger.
“You cannot run away from a weakness; you must some time fight it out or perish; and if that be so, why not now, and where you stand?”
But I never had the courage to use that argument,
though it was often on the tip of my tongue, and instead I agreed with
him heartily adding, with reckless originality, 'If the man stuck to his
work, and kept away from drink.'
'Ah!' said he slowly, 'the drink! You see, that's just my trouble.'
He spoke with a simplicity that was touching, looking at me at the same
time with something strange and timid in his eye, half-ashamed,
half-sorry, like a good child who knows he should be beaten. You would
have said he recognised a destiny to which he was born, and accepted the
consequences mildly. Like the merchant Abudah, he was at the same time
fleeing from his destiny and carrying it along with him, the whole at an
expense of six guineas.
As far as I saw, drink, idleness, and incompetency were the three great
causes of emigration, and for all of them, and drink first and foremost,
this trick of getting transported overseas appears to me the silliest
means of cure. You cannot run away from a weakness; you must some time
fight it out or perish; and if that be so, why not now, and where you
stand? _Coelum non animam_. Change Glenlivet for Bourbon, and it is
still whisky, only not so good. A sea-voyage will not give a man the
nerve to put aside cheap pleasure; emigration has to be done before we
climb the vessel; an aim in life is the only fortune worth the finding;
and it is not to be found in foreign lands, but in the heart itself.
Speaking generally, there is no vice of this kind more contemptible than
another; for each is but a result and outward sign of a soul tragically
ship-wrecked. In the majority of cases, cheap pleasure is resorted to by
way of anodyne. The pleasure-seeker sets forth upon life with high and
difficult ambitions; he meant to be nobly good and nobly happy, though at
as little pains as possible to himself; and it is because all has failed
in his celestial enterprise that you now behold him rolling in the
garbage. Hence the comparative success of the teetotal pledge; because
to a man who had nothing it sets at least a negative aim in life.
“Absences are a good influence in love and keep it bright and delicate.”
Rousseau, indeed, made some account of penmanship, even made it a
source of livelihood, when he copied out the _Héloïse_ for _dilettante_
ladies; and therein showed that strange eccentric prudence which guided
him among so many thousand follies and insanities. It would be well for
all of the _genus irritabile_ thus to add something of skilled labour to
intangible brain-work. To find the right word is so doubtful a success
and lies so near to failure, that there is no satisfaction in a year of
it; but we all know when we have formed a letter perfectly; and a stupid
artist, right or wrong, is almost equally certain he has found a right
tone or a right colour, or made a dexterous stroke with his brush. And,
again, painters may work out of doors; and the fresh air, the deliberate
seasons, and the “tranquillising influence” of the green earth,
counterbalance the fever of thought, and keep them cool, placable, and
prosaic.
A ship captain is a good man to marry if it is a marriage of love, for
absences are a good influence in love and keep it bright and delicate;
but he is just the worst man if the feeling is more pedestrian, as habit
is too frequently torn open and the solder has never time to set. Men
who fish, botanise, work with the turning-lathe, or gather sea-weeds,
will make admirable husbands; and a little amateur painting in
water-colour shows the innocent and quiet mind. Those who have a few
intimates are to be avoided; while those who swim loose, who have their
hat in their hand all along the street, who can number an infinity of
acquaintances and are not chargeable with any one friend, promise an easy
disposition and no rival to the wife’s influence. I will not say they
are the best of men, but they are the stuff out of which adroit and
capable women manufacture the best of husbands. It is to be noticed that
those who have loved once or twice already are so much the better
educated to a woman’s hand; the bright boy of fiction is an odd and most
uncomfortable mixture of shyness and coarseness, and needs a deal of
civilising.
“The correction of silence is what kills; when you know you have transgressed, and your friend says nothing, and avoids your eye”
The old
lady that I have in my eye is a very caustic speaker, her tongue, after
years of practice, in absolute command, whether for silence or attack.
If she chance to dislike you, you will be tempted to curse the malignity
of age. But if you chance to please even slightly, you will be listened
to with a particular laughing grace of sympathy, and from time to time
chastised, as if in play, with a parasol as heavy as a pole-axe. It
requires a singular art, as well as the vantage-ground of age, to deal
these stunning corrections among the coxcombs of the young. The pill is
disguised in sugar of wit; it is administered as a compliment--if you had
not pleased, you would not have been censured; it is a personal affair--a
hyphen, _a trait d'union_, between you and your censor; age's
philandering, for her pleasure and your good. Incontestably the young
man feels very much of a fool; but he must be a perfect Malvolio, sick
with self-love, if he cannot take an open buffet and still smile. The
correction of silence is what kills; when you know you have transgressed,
and your friend says nothing and avoids your eye. If a man were made of
gutta-percha, his heart would quail at such a moment. But when the word
is out, the worst is over; and a fellow with any good-humour at all may
pass through a perfect hail of witty criticism, every bare place on his
soul hit to the quick with a shrewd missile, and reappear, as if after a
dive, tingling with a fine moral reaction, and ready, with a shrinking
readiness, one-third loath, for a repetition of the discipline.
There are few women, not well sunned and ripened, and perhaps toughened,
who can thus stand apart from a man and say the true thing with a kind of
genial cruelty. Still there are some--and I doubt if there be any man
who can return the compliment. The class of man represented by Vernon
Whitford in _The Egoist_ says, indeed, the true thing, but he says it
stockishly. Vernon is a noble fellow, and makes, by the way, a noble and
instructive contrast to Daniel Deronda; his conduct is the conduct of a
man of honour; but we agree with him, against our consciences, when he
remorsefully considers "its astonishing dryness.
“Perpetual devotion to what a man calls his business, is only to be sustained by perpetual neglect of many other things”
They have been to school and college, but all the time they had their eye
on the medal; they have gone about in the world and mixed with clever
people, but all the time they were thinking of their own affairs. As if
a man’s soul were not too small to begin with, they have dwarfed and
narrowed theirs by a life of all work and no play; until here they are at
forty, with a listless attention, a mind vacant of all material of
amusement, and not one thought to rub against another, while they wait
for the train. Before he was breeched, he might have clambered on the
boxes; when he was twenty, he would have stared at the girls; but now the
pipe is smoked out, the snuff-box empty, and my gentleman sits bolt
upright upon a bench, with lamentable eyes. This does not appeal to me
as being Success in Life.
But it is not only the person himself who suffers from his busy habits,
but his wife and children, his friends and relations, and down to the
very people he sits with in a railway carriage or an omnibus. Perpetual
devotion to what a man calls his business, is only to be sustained by
perpetual neglect of many other things. And it is not by any means
certain that a man’s business is the most important thing he has to do.
To an impartial estimate it will seem clear that many of the wisest, most
virtuous, and most beneficent parts that are to be played upon the
Theatre of Life are filled by gratuitous performers, and pass, among the
world at large, as phases of idleness. For in that Theatre, not only the
walking gentlemen, singing chambermaids, and diligent fiddlers in the
orchestra, but those who look on and clap their hands from the benches,
do really play a part and fulfil important offices towards the general
result. You are no doubt very dependent on the care of your lawyer and
stockbroker, of the guards and signalmen who convey you rapidly from
place to place, and the policemen who walk the streets for your
protection; but is there not a thought of gratitude in your heart for
certain other benefactors who set you smiling when they fall in your way,
or season your dinner with good company?
“There is only one difference between a long life and a good dinner: that, in the dinner, the sweets come last.”
He had a taste for other people; and
other people had a taste for him. When the valley was full of tourists
in the season, there were merry nights in Will’s arbour; and his views,
which seemed whimsical to his neighbours, were often enough admired by
learned people out of towns and colleges. Indeed, he had a very noble
old age, and grew daily better known; so that his fame was heard of in
the cities of the plain; and young men who had been summer travellers
spoke together in _cafés_ of Will o’ the Mill and his rough philosophy.
Many and many an invitation, you may be sure, he had; but nothing could
tempt him from his upland valley. He would shake his head and smile
over his tobacco-pipe with a deal of meaning. “You come too late,” he
would answer. “I am a dead man now: I have lived and died already.
Fifty years ago you would have brought my heart into my mouth; and now
you do not even tempt me. But that is the object of long living, that
man should cease to care about life.” And again: “There is only one
difference between a long life and a good dinner: that, in the dinner,
the sweets come last.” Or once more: “When I was a boy, I was a bit
puzzled, and hardly knew whether it was myself or the world that was
curious and worth looking into. Now, I know it is myself, and stick to
that.”
He never showed any symptom of frailty, but kept stalwart and firm to
the last; but they say he grew less talkative towards the end, and
would listen to other people by the hour in an amused and sympathetic
silence. Only, when he did speak, it was more to the point and more
charged with old experience. He drank a bottle of wine gladly; above
all, at sunset on the hill-top or quite late at night under the stars
in the arbour. The sight of something attractive and unatttainable
seasoned his enjoyment, he would say; and he professed he had lived
long enough to admire a candle all the more when he could compare it
with a planet.
One night, in his seventy-second year, he awoke in bed in such
uneasiness of body and mind that he arose and dressed himself and went
out to meditate in the arbour.
“The difficulty of literature is not to write, but to write what you mean; not to affect your reader, but to affect him precisely as you wish.”
Veracity to facts in a loose, colloquial sense—not to say
that I have been in Malabar when as a matter of fact I was never out of
England, not to say that I have read Cervantes in the original when as a
matter of fact I know not one syllable of Spanish—this, indeed, is easy
and to the same degree unimportant in itself. Lies of this sort,
according to circumstances, may or may not be important; in a certain
sense even they may or may not be false. The habitual liar may be a very
honest fellow, and live truly with his wife and friends; while another
man who never told a formal falsehood in his life may yet be himself one
lie—heart and face, from top to bottom. This is the kind of lie which
poisons intimacy. And, _vice versâ_, veracity to sentiment, truth in a
relation, truth to your own heart and your friends, never to feign or
falsify emotion—that is the truth which makes love possible and mankind
happy.
_L’art de bien dire_ is but a drawing-room accomplishment unless it be
pressed into the service of the truth. The difficulty of literature is
not to write, but to write what you mean; not to affect your reader, but
to affect him precisely as you wish. This is commonly understood in the
case of books or set orations; even in making your will, or writing an
explicit letter, some difficulty is admitted by the world. But one thing
you can never make Philistine natures understand; one thing, which yet
lies on the surface, remains as unseizable to their wits as a high flight
of metaphysics—namely, that the business of life is mainly carried on by
means of this difficult art of literature, and according to a man’s
proficiency in that art shall be the freedom and the fulness of his
intercourse with other men. Anybody, it is supposed, can say what he
means; and, in spite of their notorious experience to the contrary,
people so continue to suppose. Now, I simply open the last book I have
been reading—Mr. Leland’s captivating _English Gipsies_. “It is said,” I
find on p. 7, “that those who can converse with Irish peasants in their
own native tongue form far higher opinions of their appreciation of the
beautiful, and of _the elements of humour and pathos in their hearts_,
than do those who know their thoughts only through the medium of English.
“To know what you prefer, instead of humbly saying Amen to what the world tells you you ought to prefer, is to keep your soul alive.”
I may have a wrong
idea of wisdom, but I think that was a very wise remark. People
connected with literature and philosophy are busy all their days in
getting rid of second-hand notions and false standards. It is their
profession, in the sweat of their brows, by dogged thinking, to recover
their old fresh view of life, and distinguish what they really and
originally like, from what they have only learned to tolerate perforce.
And these Royal Nautical Sportsmen had the distinction still quite
legible in their hearts. They had still those clean perceptions of what
is nice and nasty, what is interesting and what is dull, which envious
old gentlemen refer to as illusions. The nightmare illusion of middle
age, the bear’s hug of custom gradually squeezing the life out of a man’s
soul, had not yet begun for these happy-starred young Belgians. They
still knew that the interest they took in their business was a trifling
affair compared to their spontaneous, long-suffering affection for
nautical sports. To know what you prefer, instead of humbly saying Amen
to what the world tells you you ought to prefer, is to have kept your
soul alive. Such a man may be generous; he may be honest in something
more than the commercial sense; he may love his friends with an elective,
personal sympathy, and not accept them as an adjunct of the station to
which he has been called. He may be a man, in short, acting on his own
instincts, keeping in his own shape that God made him in; and not a mere
crank in the social engine-house, welded on principles that he does not
understand, and for purposes that he does not care for.
For will any one dare to tell me that business is more entertaining than
fooling among boats? He must have never seen a boat, or never seen an
office, who says so. And for certain the one is a great deal better for
the health. There should be nothing so much a man’s business as his
amusements. Nothing but money-grubbing can be put forward to the
contrary; no one but
Mammon, the least erected spirit that fell
From Heaven,
durst risk a word in answer. It is but a lying cant that would represent
the merchant and the banker as people disinterestedly toiling for
mankind, and then most useful when they are most absorbed in their
transactions; for the man is more important than his services.
“Our business in this world is not to succeed, but to continue to fail in good spirits.”
1) Never allow your mind to dwell on
your own misconduct: that is ruin. The conscience has morbid
sensibilities; it must be employed but not indulged, like the
imagination or the stomach. (2) Let each stab suffice for the occasion;
to play with this spiritual pain turns to penance; and a person easily
learns to feel good by dallying with the consciousness of having done
wrong. (3) Shut your eyes hard against the recollection of your sins. Do
not be afraid, you will not be able to forget them. (4) You will always
do wrong: you must try to get used to that, my son. It is a small matter
to make a work about, when all the world is in the same case. I meant
when I was a young man to write a great poem; and now I am cobbling
little prose articles and in excellent good spirits, I thank you. So,
too, I meant to lead a life that should keep mounting from the first;
and though I have been repeatedly down again below sea-level, and am
scarce higher than when I started, I am as keen as ever for that
enterprise. Our business in this world is not to succeed, but to
continue to fail, in good spirits. (5) There is but one test of a good
life: that the man shall continue to grow more difficult about his own
behaviour. That is to be good: there is no other virtue attainable. The
virtues we admire in the saint and the hero are the fruits of a happy
constitution. You, for your part, must not think you will ever be a good
man, for these are born and not made. You will have your own reward, if
you keep on growing better than you were--how do I say? if you do not
keep on growing worse. (6) A man is one thing, and must be exercised in
all his faculties. Whatever side of you is neglected, whether it is the
muscles, or the taste for art, or the desire for virtue, that which is
cultivated will suffer in proportion. ---- was greatly tempted, I
remember, to do a very dishonest act, in order that he might pursue his
studies in art. When he consulted me, I advised him not (putting it that
way for once), because his art would suffer. (7) It might be fancied
that if we could only study all sides of our being in an exact
proportion, we should attain wisdom.
“Youth is wholly experimental”
There were the true charity, impartial
and impersonal, cumbering none with obligation, helping all. There were
a destination for loveless gifts; there were the way to reach the pocket
of the deserving poor, and yet save the time of secretaries! But, alas!
there is no colour of romance in such a course; and people nowhere demand
the picturesque so much as in their virtues.
X
LETTER TO A YOUNG GENTLEMAN WHO PROPOSES TO EMBRACE THE CAREER OF ART
WITH the agreeable frankness of youth, you address me on a point of some
practical importance to yourself and (it is even conceivable) of some
gravity to the world: Should you or should you not become an artist? It
is one which you must decide entirely for yourself; all that I can do is
to bring under your notice some of the materials of that decision; and I
will begin, as I shall probably conclude also, by assuring you that all
depends on the vocation.
To know what you like is the beginning of wisdom and of old age. Youth
is wholly experimental. The essence and charm of that unquiet and
delightful epoch is ignorance of self as well as ignorance of life.
These two unknowns the young man brings together again and again, now in
the airiest touch, now with a bitter hug; now with exquisite pleasure,
now with cutting pain; but never with indifference, to which he is a
total stranger, and never with that near kinsman of indifference,
contentment. If he be a youth of dainty senses or a brain easily heated,
the interest of this series of experiments grows upon him out of all
proportion to the pleasure he receives. It is not beauty that he loves,
nor pleasure that he seeks, though he may think so; his design and his
sufficient reward is to verify his own existence and taste the variety of
human fate. To him, before the razor-edge of curiosity is dulled, all
that is not actual living and the hot chase of experience wears a face of
a disgusting dryness difficult to recall in later days; or if there be
any exception—and here destiny steps in—it is in those moments when,
wearied or surfeited of the primary activity of the senses, he calls up
before memory the image of transacted pains and pleasures.
“To forget oneself is to be happy.”
The grave-digger heard him out; then he raised
himself upon one elbow, and with the other hand pointed through the
window to the scene of his life-long labours. "Doctor," he said, "I ha'e
laid three hunner and fower-score in that kirkyaird; an it had been His
wull," indicating Heaven, "I would ha'e likit weel to ha'e made out the
fower hunner." But it was not to be; this tragedian of the fifth act had
now another part to play; and the time had come when others were to gird
and carry him.
II
I would fain strike a note that should be more heroical; but the ground
of all youth's suffering, solitude, hysteria, and haunting of the grave,
is nothing else than naked, ignorant selfishness. It is himself that he
sees dead; those are his virtues that are forgotten; his is the vague
epitaph. Pity him but the more, if pity be your cue; for where a man is
all pride, vanity, and personal aspiration, he goes through fire
unshielded. In every part and corner of our life, to lose oneself is to
be gainer; to forget oneself is to be happy; and this poor, laughable and
tragic fool has not yet learned the rudiments; himself, giant Prometheus,
is still ironed on the peaks of Caucasus. But by-and-by his truant
interests will leave that tortured body, slip abroad and gather flowers.
Then shall death appear before him in an altered guise; no longer as a
doom peculiar to himself, whether fate's crowning injustice or his own
last vengeance upon those who fail to value him; but now as a power that
wounds him far more tenderly, not without solemn compensations, taking
and giving, bereaving and yet storing up.
The first step for all is to learn to the dregs our own ignoble
fallibility. When we have fallen through storey after storey of our
vanity and aspiration, and sit rueful among the ruins, then it is that we
begin to measure the stature of our friends: how they stand between us
and our own contempt, believing in our best; how, linking us with others,
and still spreading wide the influential circle, they weave us in and in
with the fabric of contemporary life; and to what petty size they dwarf
the virtues and the vices that appeared gigantic in our youth.
“An aim in life is the only fortune worth finding.”
He spoke with a simplicity that was touching, looking at me at the same
time with something strange and timid in his eye, half-ashamed,
half-sorry, like a good child who knows he should be beaten. You would
have said he recognised a destiny to which he was born, and accepted the
consequences mildly. Like the merchant Abudah, he was at the same time
fleeing from his destiny and carrying it along with him, the whole at an
expense of six guineas.
As far as I saw, drink, idleness, and incompetency were the three great
causes of emigration, and for all of them, and drink first and foremost,
this trick of getting transported overseas appears to me the silliest
means of cure. You cannot run away from a weakness; you must some time
fight it out or perish; and if that be so, why not now, and where you
stand? _Coelum non animam_. Change Glenlivet for Bourbon, and it is
still whisky, only not so good. A sea-voyage will not give a man the
nerve to put aside cheap pleasure; emigration has to be done before we
climb the vessel; an aim in life is the only fortune worth the finding;
and it is not to be found in foreign lands, but in the heart itself.
Speaking generally, there is no vice of this kind more contemptible than
another; for each is but a result and outward sign of a soul tragically
ship-wrecked. In the majority of cases, cheap pleasure is resorted to by
way of anodyne. The pleasure-seeker sets forth upon life with high and
difficult ambitions; he meant to be nobly good and nobly happy, though at
as little pains as possible to himself; and it is because all has failed
in his celestial enterprise that you now behold him rolling in the
garbage. Hence the comparative success of the teetotal pledge; because
to a man who had nothing it sets at least a negative aim in life.
Somewhat as prisoners beguile their days by taming a spider, the reformed
drunkard makes an interest out of abstaining from intoxicating drinks,
and may live for that negation. There is something, at least, _not to be
done_ each day; and a cold triumph awaits him every evening.
“To be rich in admiration and free from envy, to rejoice greatly in the good of others, to love with such generosity of heart that your love is still a dear possession in absence or unkindness - these are the gifts which money cannot buy”
The blind man has
learned to see. The prisoner has opened up a window in his cell and
beholds enchanting prospects; he will never again be a prisoner as he
was; he can watch clouds and changing seasons, ships on the river,
travellers on the road, and the stars at night; happy prisoner! his eyes
have broken jail! And again he who has learned to love an art or science
has wisely laid up riches against the day of riches; if prosperity come,
he will not enter poor into his inheritance; he will not slumber and
forget himself in the lap of money, or spend his hours in counting idle
treasures, but be up and briskly doing; he will have the true alchemic
touch, which is not that of Midas, but which transmutes dead money into
living delight and satisfaction. _Etre et pas avoir_--to be, not to
possess--that is the problem of life. To be wealthy, a rich nature is
the first requisite and money but the second. To be of a quick and
healthy blood, to share in all honourable curiosities, to be rich in
admiration and free from envy, to rejoice greatly in the good of others,
to love with such generosity of heart that your love is still a dear
possession in absence or unkindness--these are the gifts of fortune which
money cannot buy and without which money can buy nothing. For what can a
man possess, or what can he enjoy, except himself? If he enlarge his
nature, it is then that he enlarges his estates. If his nature be happy
and valiant, he will enjoy the universe as if it were his park and
orchard.
But money is not only to be spent; it has also to be earned. It is not
merely a convenience or a necessary in social life; but it is the coin in
which mankind pays his wages to the individual man. And from this side,
the question of money has a very different scope and application. For no
man can be honest who does not work. Service for service. If the farmer
buys corn, and the labourer ploughs and reaps, and the baker sweats in
his hot bakery, plainly you who eat must do something in your turn. It
is not enough to take off your hat, or to thank God upon your knees for
the admirable constitution of society and your own convenient situation
in its upper and more ornamental stories.
“To be what we are, and to become what we are capable of becoming is the only end of life.”
” But surely it is no
very extravagant opinion that it is better to give than to receive, to
serve than to use our companions; and above all, where there is no
question of service upon either side, that it is good to enjoy their
company like a natural man. It is curious and in some ways dispiriting
that a writer may be always best corrected out of his own mouth; and so,
to conclude, here is another passage from Thoreau which seems aimed
directly at himself: “Do not be too moral; you may cheat yourself out of
much life so. . . . _All fables_, _indeed_, _have their morals_; _but
the innocent enjoy the story_.”
V.
“The only obligation,” says he, “which I have a right to assume is to do
at any time what I think right.” “Why should we ever go abroad, even
across the way, to ask a neighbour’s advice?” “There is a nearer
neighbour within, who is incessantly telling us how we should behave.
_But we wait for the neighbour without to tell us of some false_, _easier
way_.” “The greater part of what my neighbours call good I believe in my
soul to be bad.” To be what we are, and to become what we are capable of
becoming, is the only end of life. It is “when we fall behind ourselves”
that “we are cursed with duties and the neglect of duties.” “I love the
wild,” he says, “not less than the good.” And again: “The life of a good
man will hardly improve us more than the life of a freebooter, for the
inevitable laws appear as plainly in the infringement as in the
observance, and” (mark this) “_our lives are sustained by a nearly equal
expense of virtue of some kind_.” Even although he were a prig, it will
be owned he could announce a startling doctrine. “As for doing good,” he
writes elsewhere, “that is one of the professions that are full.
Moreover, I have tried it fairly, and, strange as it may seem, am
satisfied that it does not agree with my constitution. Probably I should
not conscientiously and deliberately forsake my particular calling to do
the good which society demands of me, to save the universe from
annihilation; and I believe that a like but infinitely greater
steadfastness elsewhere is all that now preserves it.
“It is perhaps a more fortunate destiny to have a taste for collecting shells than to be born a millionaire”
If we love, it enables us to meet and
live with the loved one, or even to prolong her health and life; if we
have scruples, it gives us an opportunity to be honest; if we have any
bright designs, here is what will smooth the way to their accomplishment.
Penury is the worst slavery, and will soon lead to death.
But money is only a means; it presupposes a man to use it. The rich can
go where he pleases, but perhaps please himself nowhere. He can buy a
library or visit the whole world, but perhaps has neither patience to
read nor intelligence to see. The table may be loaded and the appetite
wanting; the purse may be full, and the heart empty. He may have gained
the world and lost himself; and with all his wealth around him, in a
great house and spacious and beautiful demesne, he may live as blank a
life as any tattered ditcher. Without an appetite, without an
aspiration, void of appreciation, bankrupt of desire and hope, there, in
his great house, let him sit and look upon his fingers. It is perhaps a
more fortunate destiny to have a taste for collecting shells than to be
born a millionaire. Although neither is to be despised, it is always
better policy to learn an interest than to make a thousand pounds; for
the money will soon be spent, or perhaps you may feel no joy in spending
it; but the interest remains imperishable and ever new. To become a
botanist, a geologist, a social philosopher, an antiquary, or an artist,
is to enlarge one's possessions in the universe by an incalculably higher
degree, and by a far surer sort of property, than to purchase a farm of
many acres. You had perhaps two thousand a year before the transaction;
perhaps you have two thousand five hundred after it. That represents
your gain in the one case. But in the other, you have thrown down a
barrier which concealed significance and beauty. The blind man has
learned to see. The prisoner has opened up a window in his cell and
beholds enchanting prospects; he will never again be a prisoner as he
was; he can watch clouds and changing seasons, ships on the river,
travellers on the road, and the stars at night; happy prisoner!
“I am in the habit of looking not so much to the nature of a gift as to the spirit in which it is offered.”
There was
nothing present but the lees of London and the commonplace of
disrespectability; and the Prince had already fallen to yawning, and
was beginning to grow weary of the whole excursion, when the swing
doors were pushed violently open, and a young man, followed by a couple
of commissionaires, entered the bar. Each of the commissionaires
carried a large dish of cream tarts under a cover, which they at once
removed; and the young man made the round of the company, and pressed
these confections upon every one’s acceptance with an exaggerated
courtesy. Sometimes his offer was laughingly accepted; sometimes it was
firmly, or even harshly, rejected. In these latter cases the new-comer
always ate the tart himself, with some more or less humorous
commentary.
At last he accosted Prince Florizel.
“Sir,” said he, with a profound obeisance, proffering the tart at the
same time between his thumb and forefinger, “will you so far honour an
entire stranger? I can answer for the quality of the pastry, having
eaten two dozen and three of them myself since five o’clock.”
“I am in the habit,” replied the Prince, “of looking not so much to the
nature of a gift as to the spirit in which it is offered.”
“The spirit, sir,” returned the young man, with another bow, “is one of
mockery.”
“Mockery?” repeated Florizel. “And whom do you propose to mock?”
“I am not here to expound my philosophy,” replied the other, “but to
distribute these cream tarts. If I mention that I heartily include
myself in the ridicule of the transaction, I hope you will consider
honour satisfied and condescend. If not, you will constrain me to eat
my twenty-eighth, and I own to being weary of the exercise.”
“You touch me,” said the Prince, “and I have all the will in the world
to rescue you from this dilemma, but upon one condition. If my friend
and I eat your cakes—for which we have neither of us any natural
inclination—we shall expect you to join us at supper by way of
recompense.”
The young man seemed to reflect.
“I have still several dozen upon hand,” he said at last; “and that will
make it necessary for me to visit several more bars before my great
affair is concluded. This will take some time; and if you are hungry—”
The Prince interrupted him with a polite gesture.