Quotes by Kelly Bartlett

A childs behavior we see on the surface is the reflection of the feelings that are rooted underneath. We can use topical treatments to try to shape what the behavior looks like, but if we really want things to change, we need to address the roots. Nourish the roots, see the growth.

The greatest challenge of parenting is in the inner work it requires: the strength and confidence in believing that we are not in control of, but the answer for our children.

If all we ever offer is blanket praise without any meaning behind it, kids will always seek approval because theyll never feel satisfied. If we offer genuine encouragement for their accomplishments, they wont need our approval; theyll approve of themselves.

Replace a goal of obedience with one of connection and trust instead. Children are drawn to follow those to whom they are emotionally connected. By parenting not for obedience but for relationship, kids are naturally inclined to follow your lead.