Quotes by Jonathan Mills

Shouldnt we at least be asking whether the transcending of venereal desire that marriage requires of a mostly or entirely heterosexual man who marries for the sake of love, friendship, and raising a family isnt more or less the same as the transcendence required of a man whose venereal desire is oriented mostly or entirely toward men but who restrains these drives, and who marries for the sake of love, friendship and raising a family? Of course, men with little venereal desire for women cant proceed towards marriage driven by such desire. For them, marriage must develop from friendship. But wouldnt it be better if all marriages developed from friendship?

So it is in our HEART, not in our sexualness, that we human beings think and decide how to live - even if the decision is to indulge in venery of whatever sort. A man sees the complementarity of woman and man not through the eyes of lust but in his heart. Jacobs lust for Rachel distracted him from perceiving the virtue of Leah, a virtue to complement or complete his. Its in his heart, not through the lust of his eyes, that a man sees or learns to see the complementation of woman and man. If a man is homosexual or has little lust toward attractive women, this is no obstacle to his perceiving woman as his complement or helper.

So when a heterosexual man learns to appreciate the noble woman of Proverbs 31, regardless of her looks, he is transcending his sexuality, not EXPRESSING it. Jacob labored fourteen years for Rachel beautiful in form and beautiful of face. But Leah of the tender eyes (Gen. 29:17) proved a much better and nobler wife. Perhaps a homosexual man - a man whose venereal desires are focused more on men than on women - would not have been distracted by Rachels looks and could have seen Leahs goodness and nobility from the beginning, as Jacob did not (29:30f). Biblically, the dwindling of such desire is not grounds for divorce (Mal. 2:14-16).