Quotes by John Gottman

“I liken an affair to the shattering of a Waterford crystal vase. You can glue it back together, but it will never be the same again.”

“We used to think the rate of postpartum depression was 9 percent. We now know it is much higher than that.”

“The real cradle that holds the baby is the emotional climate between new parents. Many significant social problems [like violence] in our society can be traced back to this negative emotional climate in families.”

“Kids find the setting of limits comforting and soothing. They need to know that (the parent is) in control.”

“Discussions invariably end on the same note as they begin.”

“They have flexibility and humor and affection.”

“Contempt is the sulfuric acid of love.”

“Its a myth that if you solve your problems youll automatically be happy. We need to teach couples that theyll never solve most of their problems.”