Quotes by Glennon Doyle Melton

If you can’t beat fear, just do it scared.

In all my close friendships, words are the bricks I use to build bridges. To know someone I need to hear her, and to feel known, I need to be heard by her. The process of knowing and loving another person happens for me through conversation. I reveal something to help my friend understand me, she responds in a way that assures me she values my revelation, and then she adds something to help me understand her. This back-and-forth is repeated again and again as we go deeper into each others hearts, minds, pasts, and dreams. Eventually, a friendship is built - a solid, sheltering structure that exists in the space between us - a space outside of ourselves that we can climb deep into. There is her, there is me, and then there is our friendship - this bridge weve built together.

We think our job as humans is to avoid pain, our job as parents is to protect our children from pain, and our job as friends is to fix each others pain. Maybe thats why we all feel like failures so often - because we all have the wrong job description for love.

Being human in a world with no tolerance for humanity felt like a setup, a game I couldnt win. But instead of understanding that there might be something wrong with the world, I decided there was something wrong with me.

We begin to understand that to co-parent is to one day look up and notice that you are on a roller coaster with another human being. You are in the same car, strapped down side by side and you can never, ever get off. There will never be another moment in your lives when your hearts dont rise and fall together, when your stomach doesnt churn in tandem, when you stop seeing huge hills emerge in the distance and simultaneously grab the sides of the car and hold on tight. No one except for the one strapped down beside you will ever understand the particular thrills and terrors of your ride.

There are only two lives we might live: our dream or our destiny. Sometimes they are one in the same, and sometimes theyre not. Often our dreams are just a path to our destinies.

Loving people and animals makes us stronger in the right ways and weaker in the right ways. Even if animals and people leave, even if they die, they leave us better. So we keep loving, even though we might lose, because loving teaches us and changes us.

When her pain is fresh and new, let her have it. Dont try to take it away. Forgive yourself for not having that power. Grief and pain are like joy and peace; they are not things we should try to snatch from each other. Theyre sacred. they are part of each persons journey. All we can do is offer relief from this fear: I am all alone. Thats the one fear you can alleviate.

Im not a mess but a deeply feeling person in a messy world. I explain that now, when someone asks me why I cry so often, I say, For the same reason I laugh so often--because Im paying attention. I tell them that we can choose to be perfect and admired or to be real and loved. We must decide.

We begin to understand that to coparent is to one day look up and notice that you are on a roller coaster with another human being. You are in the same car, strapped down side by side and you can never, ever get off. There will never be another moment in your lives when your hearts dont rise and fall together, when your minds dont race and panic together, when your stomachs dont churn in tandem, when you stop seeing huge hills emerge in the distance and simultaneously grab the side of the car and hold on tight. No one except for the one strapped down beside you will ever understand the particular thrills and terrors of your ride.

Let’s be Atticus Finch in To Kill a Mockingbird. Atticus’s children, Scout and Jem, carefully watch their father’s behavior as the house next door to theirs burns to the ground. As the fire creeps closer and closer to the Finches’ home, Atticus appears so calm that Scout and Jem finally decide that “it ain’t time to worry yet.” We need to be Atticus. Hands in our pockets. Calm. Believing. So that our children will look at us and even with a fire raging in front of them, they’ll say, “Huh. Guess it’s not time to worry yet.

If our goal is to be tolerant of people who are different than we are, Chase, then we really are aiming quite low. Traffic jams are to be tolerated. People are to be celebrated.

The original Hebrew word for woman, a word that is used twice to refer to the first woman, three times to refer to strong military forces, and sixteen times to refer to God, is this: Ezer...I learn this: The word Ezer has two roots: strong and benevolent. The best translation of Ezer is: Warrior. God created woman as a Warrior.

Im trying to strip myself down to my barest essentials so I can figure out where I begin and where the woman the world told me to be begins. Im going back to the starting line.

I have decided that Im ready to stop destroying myself and start creating. I have already accepted my invitation and no one will convince me again that Im not worthy. Not ever again. I have been invited and I have said Yes. My Yes is final.

Since the day I decided to become sober and a mother, Ive been trying to become who I am supposed to be.

Addiction is just a little hiding place where sensitive people can go so we dont have to be touched by love or pain.

I think sexy is a grown-up word to describes a person whos confident that she is already exactly who she was made to be. A sexy woman knows herself and she likes the way she looks, thinks & feels. She doesnt try to change to match anybody else. Shes a good friend herself kind and patient. and she knows how to use her words to tell people she trusts about whats going on inside of her-her fears and anger, love, dreams the mistakes, and needs. When shes angry she expresses her anger in healthy ways. When shes joyful, she does the same thing. She doesnt hide her true self because she is not ashamed. She knows shes just human-exactly how God made her and thats good enough. Shes brave enough to be honest and kind enough to except others when theyre honest. When two people are sexy enough to be brave and kind with each other, thats love. Sexy is more about how you feel and how you look. Real sexy is letting your true self come out of hiding and find love in safe places. That kind of sexy is good, really good, because we all we want and need love more than anything else

She is trying to be brave, but no one knows what brave looks like inside this particular moment.

“I think one of the keys to happiness is accepting that I am never going to be perfectly happy. Life is uncomfortable. So I might as well get busy loving the people around me... Im going to quit chasing happiness long enough to notice it smiling right at me.”