Quotes by Dory Hollander

“People think the time to leave is when things become unbearable, or is a function of the time youve been there. Its not, ... The Doom-Loop System.”

“[You have a lot on your mind, just not work. The work doesnt challenge you and time hangs.] Boredom is a big factor, ... When its just a job, its time to leave.”

“If you have a green light from your spouse and kids, life is going to be much easier.”

“If youre depressed or burnt out, your family is probably suffering the brunt of that as much as you are. They may prefer a pay cut to youre being so down.”

“See your job as a funding source for what you want to do next. Do whats required and do it as quickly as you can, then network with those who can give you the growth you need for the next job.”

“Boredom is a big factor. When its just a job, its time to leave.”

Women and men who have established no-lie relationships talk about them with reverence, even when they are not permanent and, in fact, even when they are not romantic. Why? In the no-lie relationship there is acceptance of who each partner is, rather than a shallow idealization. There is a genuine commitment to the relationship beyond the immediate. You each act as though you are in a real partnership that will last.

Real change will come when you focus on yourself - not on changing him, Real change comes when you are willing and able to state your claim on what you are and are not willing to live with. Just remember to let him in on it