Quotes by Barbara Pym

“Those quotations were really quite obscure. Anyone can see that he is a very well read man.”

“How absurd and delicious it is to be in love with somebody younger than yourself. Everybody should try it.”

“Yes, it seems that things like that should go on in London... It is better taste somehow that a man should be unfaithful to his wife away from home.”

She knew exactly how she ought to feel, for she was well read in our greater and lesser English poets, but the unfortunate fact was that she did not really like being kissed at all.

But at least it made one realize that life still held infinite possibilities for change.

I stretched out my hand towards the little bookshelf where I kept cookery and devotional books, the most comfortable bedside reading.

Prue hadnt really been in love with Fabian. Indeed, it was obvious that at times she found him both boring and irritating. But wasnt that what so many marriages were - finding a person boring and irritating and yet loving him? Who could imagine a man who was never boring, or irritating?

We, my dear Mildred, are the observers of life. Let other people get married by all means, the more the merrier. . . . Let Dora marry if she likes. She hasnt your talent for observation.

It was the ring on the left hand that people at the Old Girls Reunion looked for. Often, in fact nearly always, it was an uninteresting ring, sometimes no more than the plain gold band or the very smallest and dimmest of diamonds. Perhaps the husband was also of this variety, but as he was not seen at this female gathering he could only be imagined, and somehow I do not think we ever imagined the husbands to be quite so uninteresting as they probably were.

Oh, this coming back to an empty house, Rupert thought, when he had seen her safely up to her door. People - though perhaps it was only women - seemed to make so much of it. As if life itself were not as empty as the house one was coming back to.

Letty allowed her to ramble on while she looked around the wood, remembering its autumn carpet of beech leaves and wondering if it could be the kind of place to lie down in and prepare for death when life became too much to be endured.

Once outside the magic circle the writers became their lonely selves, pondering on poems, observing their fellow men ruthlessly, putting people they knew into novels; no wonder they were without friends.

You know Mildred would never do anything wrong or foolish. I reflected a little sadly that this was only too true and hoped I did not appear too much that kind of person to others. Virtue is an excellent thing and we should all strive after it, but it can sometimes be a little depressing.

He certainly is very charming, but he makes me feel slightly ill at ease—almost as if I were a woman manquée, if there could be such a thing—you know, something lacking in me.Oh, well, thats hardly his fault.No, Dulcie agreed. Mine, of course.

I realised that one might love him secretly with no hope of encouragement, which can be very enjoyable for the young or inexperienced.

It seemed so much safer and more comfortable to live in the lives of other people - to observe their joys and sorrows with detachment as if one were watching a film or a play.

The conversation did not go very well and I began telling him about the people with their trays in the great cafeteria and suggesting that it would have done us more good to go there to be put in mind of our own mortality.

One did not drink sherry before the evening, just as one did not read a novel in the morning.

How absurd and delicious it is to be in love with somebody younger than yourself. Everybody should try it.

“She knew exactly how she ought to feel, for she was well read in our greater and lesser English poets, but the unfortunate fact was that she did not really like being kissed at all.”