Quotes by C. JoyBell C.

I believe that when a woman is given the chance to come to the defense of another woman, that is an opportunity that she should take in behalf of not only that woman; but in behalf of herself and all other women, everywhere. Men dont have low opinions of women because women are sluts and whores; but men have low opinions of women because they see how women compete with one another, pull one another down in order to rise above and backbite one another endlessly. There are men who have low opinions of women because of how women treat other women. They see that and they think, What kind of a species can do that to their own species? So if you really want the guy, why not get him by showing him what a true friend you are to your girlfriends? Or by showing him how happy you are for the good fortune of another woman and how much you admire her? And if he doesnt appreciate that then he doesnt deserve you! I know weve got a long, long way to go before we change the way our gender treats one another; but its got to start somewhere and I suggest we start right now.

Im different. I will give you my treasure chest of darkness first. If you can handle that, then Ill bring out my shining moons. If one cannot handle the darkness, then one should not deserve the light. I have no interest in trapping anyone into a silken web. I have no silken web.

There are different kinds of judgment-making. Naturally, when we meet people, we form judgments based upon how we were taught to see the world and other people (how we were raised, what weve experienced and etc.) The first kind of judgment-making is the more commonplace thing: to judge and to write that judgment in stone. The second kind of judgment-making is the kind that I do: to judge but then to write those judgments in the sand near the shoreline where the waves lap onto, that way, if I am wrong, the waves of truth may easily wash away any judgments I have made and thus I can be malleable and shaped easily by truth rather than by preconceived notions. The second kind of judgment is crucial to life, because it allows us to appreciate people and circumstances to the fullest. It allows us to live.

In this world, the thing people fear the most, and what pains people the most— is giving more than they receive. God forbid I cut off more of my fingernail for you than you cut from your fingernail, for me! Heaven forbid I hold my breath in longer while thinking about you, than the amount of time your breath is held in for me! Not a second longer! It is sad fact of the human nature that there you stand as an Infinite Soul and yet your greatest fear is not receiving from another person in proportion to what you give. Your viewpoint is low, your vision is clouded. You have become, in your eyes, a funny little drawing on the paper pad of the universe. Indeed, this race is yet to evolve. And yet, I am surrounded by such fear, to such a great extent that I begin to fear the same!

What multiplies is only up to us. Whether it is kindness that multiplies; or unkindness. Whether it is goodwill that multiplies; or bad intentions. Whether it is love that multiplies; or fear. Whether it is truth that multiplies; or doubt. What multiplies in our own minds, in our relationships with other people, in our relationship with our perspectives about the rest of the world, in our relationship with God, in our outlooks and in our hearts— it’s all up to us. The power of multiplication is in our own hands. What you magnify upon will in fact become your reality.

Hypocrisy annoys me, people need to look into mirrors. Let me hold a mirror in front of your face.

When I see you, I think I wonder which face she sees when she looks into the mirror.

You deserve to be with somebody, who knows youre the one, from that very first moment he lays eyes on you. Do I believe in love at first sight? But of course! Love cannot be tamed nor bridled by things like time, circumstance, and logic!

I believe in roses. Oh God, yes! I do believe in roses! And I believe in lots and lots and lots of them, too!

In the heart of the mystic lies a deep longing to be reunited with the ancient ways, coupled with a yearning to be able to show others what she can see. She wants to show others what she can see. Sadly, more often than not, others do not have the eyes with which to see, or, their eyes are blinded by bondage and fear. She is ever alone and yet ever accompanied by a thousand leagues of beauties and voices, that this mystic existence can only be described as a thorny rose— the mystic is the one who reaches for the rose because she knows that those who crave the rose must not fear the thorns.

Yes, the human race is a small species in an infinite universe filled with many other planets and many other things, but though small; this race is bearer of very great and big things: Destiny, Virtue, Hope, Love... and thats what makes this species different. Thats what makes this species very shiny and very visible and very important, in a whole, whole, big, big, vast, expanding universe!

I was just thinking... how it is not and it will never be okay to cause pain in someones life just because of the fact that you are envious of them! Is someone taller than you? Richer than you? More beautiful? That doesnt make it okay to hurt those people, for all you know, they bear deep wounds and carry heavy burdens and their heartache is far greater than anything you could ever bear! People try to hurt people that theyre envious of, without knowing that they are adding to what is already painful. And because someone has more than you or has what it is that you want, doesnt mean that they owe you anything! Its not their fault! Be careful, you may just be wounding an angel soul, and a wound inflicted upon an angel soul, will always, always come back to haunt- YOU.

No bird in a cage has ever come to know what the mountain winds feel like, by staring at the free flying birds, wishing that they would fall from the sky!

Ive learned, that not all worth is measured by price. Ive found so many gems that didnt cost me much!

No, I am not bitter, I am not hateful, and I am not unforgiving. I just dont like you.

Often, during times when I am in a state of absolute bliss and gratitude, those are the times that people will ask me, “Are you happy or are you sad?” It’s funny, because when you are happy in a way that most people are happy in, that is, when you are jumping up and down and laughing and smiling and giggling, people will recognize that as happiness. But when you go beyond that state and on into the state of blissfulness— nirvana— only a very few number of people are going to be able to recognize and understand that. Why? Because only very few people have gone beyond the level of obvious happiness, to experience actual nirvaana. Nirvana is what I describe as being in a state of worship; you see, you go beyond just feeling happy and grateful, and you enter into a state of mind that allows you to worship what you have been given or what you have attained or achieved, or whatever circumstance you are in that is making you happy. You stop and you worship the person, the place, the thing, the feeling. I’m easily flung into that state, so, I often find it strange that I can be in an absolute state of bliss, meanwhile, the other person can be asking me if I am either happy or sad. But I am worshipping.

I have always been a lone wolf and in the real sense of the word (people say it all the time but its usually not true.) I feel like I watch people and I wonder why they do things. Especially when it comes to love and relationships: most of the time I am thinking Why are they together when they are not meant to be together? but then I realize that they dont know that theyre not meant to be together; its just me who knows things like that! And I dont see any importance in all the other reasons why people usually want to be together— because it looks good, because its convenient, because its a fun game to play... the only reason to be with someone is if you are meant for someone. Youre a wolf and theyre a wolf too and you look at each other and you say Youre my family, youre my home. Well, thats how I think.

So, I believe that what you are looking for, really looking for, is that one person who is capable of recognizing you no matter what. You know, that one person who is going to be able to see past what everybody else sees and even past what you yourself see or want to show, then be able to look at you and really recognize you and say Thats not you! This is you right over here! You just forgot yourself, but I see you! I will help you remember yourself, because I remember you! And thats what everyone wants. No, actually, I dont know if thats what everyone wants; but I know thats what I want! Because I can put up so many damn walls and faces just to see who really knows me, who really recognizes me, who really remembers me, even more than I recognize and remember myself! Because if I dont get that, then I dont get anything, because I dont want anything less than that.

Because that happened to me when I was little, this is how I will now treat other people; Because so and so beat me up and hurt me a long time ago, that gives me the right to treat people the way I treat them, today; Because life was hard on me, life should be hard on everyone else around me— does this sound/ look familiar? Its called victim mentality. When people choose to be the direct product of everything that happened to them, the direct product of every single pair of hands that hurt them. And the world, to these people, must bend over backwards in order to accommodate their wounds. Some people dont want to be loved; they just want to make the world pay.

“Sometimes the things that are felt the most are expressed between two souls over the distance and over time...where no words abide. And others may speak freely, live with one another freely, express themselves freely– just like everyone else, but then there is you... you have no words for proof of reassurance, no tokens of professed love, but you have something. Something worth keeping.”