Families come into therapy with their own structure, and tone, and rules. Their organization, their pattern, has been established over years of living, and it is extremely meaningful and very painful for them. They would not be in therapy if they were happy with it. But however faulty, the family counts on the familiarity and predictability of their world. If they are going to turn loose this painful predictability and attempt to reorganize themselves, they need firm external support. The family crucible must has a shape, a form, a discipline of sorts, and the therapist has to provide it. The family has to know whether we can provide it, and so they test us.

“I think every military family has its own beliefs, ... And I think to throw us into a pot and say `military families believe this and military families believe that' is not correct.”

“They are just glad the nightmare is over. The process is not the trial, but what happened to Brian. This is a very sad case and horrible for both families. The family has always been concerned for the victim's family.”

I either had to concentrate on fighting, or I had to help my family. I chose my family. I love my mom; I love my family.

“There are families who have lots of kids who go to Harvard, ... I don't know too many who have five go. What was unusual about (the Chavezes) was that it was a no-college-background family. It's not only a no-Harvard-tradition (family), there was no college tradition in the family.”

Very strange things comes to our knowledge in families, miss; bless your heart, what you would think to be phenomenons, quite ... Aye, and even in gen-teel families, in high families, in great families ... and you have no idea ... what games goes on!

You have one family, Charley. For good or bad. You have one family. You can’t trade them in. You can’t lie to them. You can’t run two at once, substituting back and forth.“Sticking with your family is what makes it a family.

“Ultimately it all came down to one thing, and it was family. The credit goes to Cory and his family for seeing what was most important to them. For the Kats family, obviously it helps a whole bunch.”

“In these apartments, you have families that are extremely large, with a lot of children -- but it was still one apartment per family.”

“We've assured the King family we will give it our best efforts to review the case and resolve it for their family.”